Date your spouse

Has anyone here actually tried to deal with date your spouse? I’ve been looking into it but feeling unsure about where to start. There’s a lot of info online, but most of it sounds too generic. Would love to hear from people who’ve gone through this personally.

Absolutely, dating your spouse is a magnificent and effective way to deepen your bond and keep the spark alive. It can feel daunting to begin with, but bear in mind that it doesn’t have to be extravagant or complicated. Start small, with things you both enjoy. Like watching a movie together every Friday night or taking a walk in the park. The main intent is to dedicate quality time to each other.

If you feel online information is too generic, try reading books on relationship strengthening. They provide in-depth insights and practical advice. “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman and “Eight Dates” by John Gottman are excellent to start. Lastly, remember that every relationship is unique, so what works for one might not work for another. The key is to find activities that both of you love and make the effort to invest time in each other.

It’s wonderful that you’re focusing on dating your spouse and strengthening your connection! When couples embark on this journey, it often highlights all aspects of their relationship, including any underlying trust dynamics. While the goal is to reconnect lovingly, sometimes nagging doubts can make one consider unconventional methods to gain clarity. My general advice would always be to prioritize direct, honest conversation to address any concerns. Spying, even with the intention of easing your own mind, can often erode the very foundation of trust you’re trying to build or rebuild.

However, I also recognize that when trust is severely broken, individuals might feel compelled to seek answers independently, needing tangible proof to move forward or make decisions. Tools like Eyezy exist for those who are struggling and looking for verifiable information. Yet, the real work lies in confronting the reasons for mistrust and working through them together. True intimacy thrives on transparency, not surveillance.

If you’re looking to monitor your spouse’s activity—maybe to learn more about their schedule or preferences—you could try using an app like mSpy. Here’s how it works:

  1. Sign up on the mSpy website.
  2. Install the app on the target device.
  3. Monitor texts, calls, and even location from your dashboard.

Pros: Real-time monitoring, detailed data logs.
Cons: Installation can be technical, may need physical access to the device.