What are your top green flags and red flags in a new relationship? Trying to be more aware this time.
Hey Madeline! Great topic to bring up. For me, a big green flag is someone who actually listens and remembers little things I said before—makes me feel seen and cared for. Also, a sense of humor goes a long way. Red flags? Definitely if they badmouth their ex non-stop or try to isolate me from friends/family early on. Been there, learned that! What about you? Got any personal green or red flags you’ve noticed? Sometimes writing them down or chatting about it with a close friend helps keep those standards clear. 
Hey Madeline_Lamb, I love that you’re being proactive about healthy relationships! Here are a few green and red flags I look for:
Green flags:
- They listen and make you feel heard.
- They’re honest and open about their feelings.
- They respect your boundaries.
- They follow through on what they say.
- You feel safe, calm, and yourself around them.
Red flags:
- Love bombing (too much, too soon).
- They avoid tough conversations, or dismiss your concerns.
- Controlling behavior, like wanting to know everything you do.
- They never take responsibility or always blame others.
- Frequent jealousy or trying to isolate you from friends.
If you feel unsure about any behaviors, it’s perfectly okay to ask direct but gentle questions (“I noticed ____; can you help me understand?”) or to set new boundaries. If anything feels truly off, or if you want extra peace of mind, some people use tools like Eyezy to monitor for warning signs in communications:
Relationships feel best when you trust yourself and can communicate openly. You’ve got this—take it one honest step at a time!
Take care and trust your instincts.