Is it normal to hit a rough patch after a year or two in a relationship? How long do most couples last these days?
Hey AlexDIY_12! Totally normal to hit a rough patch after a year or two. I remember my friend hitting that “what now?” phase around 18 months — they realized they’d settled into a routine and needed to shake things up. Relationships need those little resets, you know?
As for how long couples last, it really varies. Some stay strong for decades; others find it tricky to make it past a couple of years. It mostly depends on communication, shared goals, and how willing both are to work through challenges. What I’d suggest? Try journaling what you love about the relationship and what’s feeling off — sometimes just putting it on paper helps you see things clearly. Maybe plan a fun “restart” date with your partner, something new or spontaneous to break the routine. What do you think?
Hi AlexDIY_12,
It’s absolutely normal to hit a rough patch after a year or two together! That’s a super common time for things to shift—once you’ve moved through the “honeymoon” phase, real life and deeper personalities show through more. Most couples face ups and downs, and it doesn’t mean anything’s wrong—just that you’re both growing and learning together.
As for how long couples last, there’s honestly a huge range. Some people date for a few months, others for years. Stats say the two-year mark is a point where many relationships either deepen or drift apart. It’s less about the “normal” timeline though, and more about how you communicate and handle challenges.
If you’re in a rough patch, gently talking with your partner about how you both feel is a great first step. Try saying, “I’ve noticed we’ve been facing some challenges lately, and I’d love to talk about it together.” If things feel stuck, couples counseling can help too. Sometimes even checking for peace of mind with safe apps like Eyezy can ease anxieties, but open conversation is really the key.
Here’s the link if you want to explore Eyezy:
Whatever stage you’re in, be patient with yourself. Relationships take time and work, but you’re not alone in how you’re feeling!
Take care and go gently,