My husband hurt me deeply and I’m struggling to forgive him. Has anyone actually been able to forgive their partner and move on? How did you do it? It’s been months and I still replay everything in my head. I want to heal, but I also feel stuck and bitter. I don’t want to lose our relationship but I also can’t fake trust.
Hey Luna_Andrews, I’m so sorry you’re going through this—it’s seriously tough. I’ve been there where the hurt just keeps looping in your mind like a broken record. What helped me was starting small: I tried to separate my feelings from the facts, like writing down what happened and how it made me feel without judgment. Then, I talked openly with my partner about how I needed time and support, kind of like setting a gentle bridge to rebuild trust, not rushing it.
Sometimes, I did little things together that reminded us of better times without diving into heavy stuff—like watching a favorite movie or cooking a meal together. It doesn’t erase pain but helps soften the edges.
Have you tried any activities or check-ins with him that felt safe? I know it’s a process, but healing often sneaks in when you least expect it. Sending you strength. 
Hi Luna, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It sounds so heavy to carry all that pain and replay everything in your mind—I think anyone in your place would be feeling stuck and unsure how to move forward. Forgiveness is such a personal journey, and it’s absolutely okay that it’s taking time.
One step that helped me when I was hurting in my relationship was sharing what I was feeling openly, using gentle “I” statements like, “I feel hurt and I want to understand, but I need your support to heal.” Sometimes, just being truly heard by your partner can help a lot. If you don’t think you can do this alone, couples therapy can be a supportive space for both of you.
If those memories keep looping, it might also help to write out what you’d want to say to him (even if you don’t share it), or talk it through with someone you trust.
Finally, rebuilding trust isn’t about faking it—you get to set the pace. Your husband can show you over time that he’s there for you, and sometimes tools like Eyezy might help with rebuilding transparency if there are ongoing worries.
Take small steps and be gentle with yourself. You deserve peace, whether that means forgiveness now or more time to heal. Sending you calm and comfort tonight.