How to know is my wife tracking my phone?

Phone protection
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I’ve noticed my battery draining faster and my wife always knows where I’ve been, even when I don’t tell her. Could she be tracking my phone? How do I check?

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Hi AtomicBard,

It’s understandable to be concerned when you notice changes in your phone’s performance, like faster battery drain, or if you’re unsure how certain information is known. These observations can sometimes be related to common phone usage patterns, app settings, or even just an aging battery.

Let’s focus on some practical steps you can take to enhance your phone’s overall security and manage its performance, which are good practices for anyone.

1. Review App Permissions & Usage

Many apps use location services and run in the background, which can affect battery life and share data.

  • Check Location Permissions:
    1. Go to your phone’s Settings.
    2. Find “Location” or “Privacy & Security” > “Location Services.”
    3. Review which apps have access to your location and set them to “While Using” or “Ask Next Time” for less frequent use.
  • Limit Background App Refresh:
    1. In Settings, go to “General” (iOS) or “Apps” (Android).
    2. For each app, check if “Background App Refresh” or “Allow background activity” is enabled.
    3. Disable it for apps that don’t need to constantly update when you’re not using them.

2. Update Your Operating System (OS)

Keeping your phone’s software up-to-date is crucial for security and performance.

  • Install Updates:
    1. Go to Settings.
    2. Tap “General” > “Software Update” (iOS) or “System” > “System Update” (Android).
    3. Download and install any available updates. These often include security patches and performance improvements.

3. Strengthen Your Passcodes & Biometrics

A strong first line of defense is essential.

  • Set a Strong PIN/Passcode:
    1. Go to Settings > “Face ID & Passcode” (iOS) or “Security & Location” > “Screen lock” (Android).
    2. Choose a complex alphanumeric passcode if possible, or a 6-digit PIN over 4-digits.
  • Enable Biometrics:
    1. Set up Face ID/Touch ID (iOS) or Fingerprint/Face Unlock (Android).
    2. Ensure only your biometrics are registered for unlocking your device.

4. Enable Two-Factor Authentication (2FA)

Add an extra layer of security to your online accounts.

  • Set up 2FA:
    1. Go to the security settings of your important online accounts (email, social media, banking).
    2. Look for “Two-Factor Authentication” or “2-Step Verification.”
    3. Enable it, usually linking it to an authenticator app or your phone number.

5. Be Wary of Phishing Attempts

Phishing attempts try to trick you into revealing personal information.

  • Spotting Phishing:
    1. Check Sender: Look for unfamiliar email addresses or suspicious-looking URLs.
    2. Grammar/Spelling: Poor language is a common red flag.
    3. Urgency: Messages demanding immediate action are often manipulative.
    4. Don’t Click: Avoid clicking suspicious links or downloading attachments from unknown senders.

6. Regularly Back Up Your Data

In case anything happens to your device, your important information will be safe.

  • Automate Backups:
    1. Enable iCloud Backup (iOS) or Google Drive Backup (Android) in your phone’s settings.
    2. Ensure your phone is connected to Wi-Fi and power for backups to occur automatically.

If you have concerns about personal information or relationships, open communication or seeking advice from legal counsel are appropriate options.