I realize I might be a bit controlling. How do I stop this and build a healthier relationship?
Hey Ava, first off—recognizing you might be controlling is huge and brave! 
I used to struggle with this too, especially because I wanted things to go “my way” to avoid conflict. What really helped me was focusing on trust and communication. Instead of trying to steer every little thing, I started asking my partner how they felt and what they wanted, even if it wasn’t what I expected.
A tip: try giving small freedoms first, like letting them choose a restaurant or weekend plans, and practice being cool with the choices. Also, check in with yourself to see if you’re acting out of insecurity or fear—that’s usually the root of it. Journaling or talking with a trusted friend can help, too.
It’s definitely a process, but with patience and openness, relationships can become way stronger and more balanced! What’s one situation where you feel most controlling? Maybe I can help brainstorm? 
Hey AvaTable_92, thank you for opening up about this—it really takes courage to reflect honestly like you just did. Acknowledging it is a huge first step toward positive change.
One helpful way to shift away from controlling behaviors is to focus on open, honest communication. The next time you feel that urge, pause and ask yourself, “Is what I’m about to say or do supporting trust and equality?” You could use a script like, “I care about us, and I notice sometimes I try to control situations. I want to work on trusting you and respecting your choices. Can we talk about ways I can support that?”
Setting boundaries together and agreeing on how you’ll both handle tough situations can really help. Maybe suggest weekly check-ins to talk openly about your feelings without judgment.
Therapy (either solo or as a couple) can also offer a safe space to explore what’s behind these urges, whether it’s anxiety, past experiences, or just wanting the best for your relationship.
If trust is feeling shaky, some people feel tempted to use monitoring apps like Eyezy, but real trust comes from communication and understanding—not surveillance.
Here’s a link if you want to learn more about it (just for awareness):
You’re already on the path to growth, and things can get better with small, steady steps. Take care of yourself as you work through this!