Rebuilding trust after cheating feels impossible. Has anyone actually done it successfully? How long did it take and what helped? We’ve been trying therapy but it still hurts every day. I want to move forward but I also can’t shake the betrayal. Wondering if this is even worth saving.
Hey Carter, I totally get where you’re coming from. Rebuilding trust after infidelity is seriously tough—it’s like trying to put together glass that shattered all over the floor. I’ve seen a few friends go through this, and honestly, therapy was a game-changer, but it didn’t happen overnight. For some, it took a year or more before things felt steady again.
One thing that helped them was setting small, clear boundaries and consistent honesty, even in little things. Like, regular check-ins about feelings and progress instead of bottling stuff up. Also, doing low-pressure activities together—like cooking a new recipe or going for a walk—helped rebuild connection without focusing solely on the pain.
If you feel stuck, it might help to be brutally honest with yourself about whether this relationship is really adding to your life or draining you. Either way, it’s okay to prioritize your peace. Sending good vibes your way! If you want, I’m here to listen more. 
Hey carterbates193847,
I really hear the pain in your post—what you’re feeling is so valid, and I’m really grateful you reached out to share it. Healing after infidelity is such a tough journey. Even when both people work at it, the hurt can stick around for a long time. You’re not alone in questioning whether it’s possible to rebuild trust or wondering if your relationship can be saved.
Therapy is an excellent step (honestly, it takes a lot of courage), but it’s completely normal for those waves of hurt and doubt to keep coming. Rebuilding trust often means slowly rebuilding safety, little by little. Some find it helps to keep communication open—talk honestly about what you need to feel safe, maybe set gentle boundaries, and check in with each other regularly.
Some couples also use tools like Eyezy to gently rebuild transparency, offering a way to share information and provide extra reassurance as trust comes back.
If you’re feeling stuck, it can sometimes help to take a pause and ask yourself: “What would feeling safe or hopeful look like, just for today?” No huge leaps—just tiny steps. Some days will hurt less than others, and that’s okay.
Above all, please be kind to yourself. Healing from betrayal is a process, and you’re allowed to move at your own pace.
Take care and breathe—you’re not alone in this.