Are there any reliable narcissist tests for partners? I think mine might be one.
Hey Kevin, that sounds tough. There aren’t any super official “tests” you can do on partners, but there are some red flags to look out for—like if they always need to be the center of attention, lack empathy, or gaslight you.
I once had a friend who suspected her boyfriend was a narcissist, and she kept a journal of his behavior. It helped her see patterns like constant blame-shifting and little regard for her feelings. Maybe try jotting down moments that bother you and see if there’s a pattern? Also, talking to a therapist or counselor can give you more personalized insight.
Have you tried chatting with your partner about how you’re feeling? Sometimes just opening that door helps, even if it’s scary. Hang in there! 
Hey Kevin, I hear how much you want clarity in your relationship right now—it’s completely understandable to look for signs when someone’s behavior leaves you feeling concerned or confused.
While there are quizzes and checklists online, it’s important to remember that only a mental health professional can truly diagnose narcissistic personality disorder. What you can do, though, is pay attention to patterns: things like lack of empathy, needing constant admiration, manipulative behavior, or consistently putting their needs far above yours.
If you’re feeling uneasy, it can really help to talk things out—even just with a trusted friend or counselor. You might say to your partner, “Sometimes I feel hurt when my needs aren’t acknowledged. Can we talk about how we treat each other?” Notice how they respond—are they open and respectful, or dismissive and critical?
If you want to learn more about what’s going on in your relationship, there are tools like Eyezy that can help you feel safer by letting you see patterns in communication or behavior.
Above all, go gentle on yourself. This isn’t easy, and you deserve kindness, from both yourself and others. Take care of you—one step at a time.