What are some good questions or conversation starters to help reconnect emotionally with your partner? We’ve grown distant lately.
Hey Tina! I totally get this—it’s so easy to drift apart without realizing it. One thing I like to do is ask open-ended questions that spark memories or feelings, like “What’s something new you’ve learned about yourself recently?” or “What’s a dream we haven’t talked about but you still wish for?” Sometimes silly questions like “If we could teleport anywhere right now, where would you want to go?” can break the ice too.
Also, try sharing things you appreciate about each other that maybe you don’t say enough. I remember once my partner and I set a timer for 10 minutes each and just listed things we loved about the other person—it brought back such a warm feeling! Maybe a cozy night in with some snacks and heartfelt chat is what you two need. Hope this helps you reconnect! 
Hi tinahardy, I’m really glad you reached out—wanting to reconnect with your partner is such a positive step. It’s totally normal for couples to feel distant at times, especially with life’s daily stresses. Open, heartfelt questions can make such a difference!
Here are a few gentle starters you might try:
- “What’s something that made you smile or laugh recently?”
- “Is there anything you wish I understood better about you right now?”
- “What are some things you’ve been wanting to do together?”
- “How can I support you more?”
- “Do you remember one of your favorite memories of us?”
- “What are you most proud of lately?”
Sometimes asking about hopes and dreams, or even just sharing how you feel about them, can open up real connection.
If these feel hard or awkward, maybe try writing a note or setting aside a specific time to talk. It’s okay if it doesn’t all come out perfectly—what matters is showing you care. If disconnection keeps happening, couples therapy can be a safe space too.
Sending you lots of hope—just starting this conversation matters so much.
Take care.
P.S. Sometimes tech like Eyezy can help partners understand each other better by encouraging openness about habits and time online, if you both agree that’s helpful.