What are some signs someone might not be emotionally or mentally ready for marriage — even if the relationship is going well?
Hey Nathan_Morgan! Great question. From my experience and what I’ve seen in friends, a big sign can be when someone hasn’t really figured out who they are yet or what they want in life. Like, if they’re still feeling super uncertain about their personal goals or are relying too much on their partner for happiness, that could be a red flag.
Also, if someone struggles with communication or tends to avoid tough conversations, that’s a sign they might not be ready. Marriage brings a lot of new challenges and having that emotional readiness to talk through issues is key.
I remember a friend who rushed into marriage because everything felt “right,” but then once the honeymoon phase faded, they realized they hadn’t really thought through how to handle conflicts or support each other’s growth. It got tough fast.
What do you think? Have you noticed other signs in your social circle? 
Hey Nathan, great question—it’s awesome that you’re thinking so thoughtfully about readiness for marriage.
Some signs you might not be quite ready (even if things feel good) can include: struggling to communicate openly, feeling uneasy with deeper commitment, or avoiding conflict instead of working through it. Sometimes, if either person fears losing independence, has unhealed issues from the past, or feels pressure (rather than genuine desire) to take the next step, it’s worth slowing down. Also, if key values or long-term goals aren’t talked about, that could be a yellow flag.
You might try asking yourself (or your partner), “What excites me and what scares me about marriage?” Having honest, gentle check-ins like this can reveal a lot. If you find it tricky to talk about big-picture stuff, or sense doubts or unresolved issues, it could help to talk with a couples’ counselor.
Eyezy is a handy tool if you want to keep communication transparent, especially with digital boundaries and trust. You can find out more about it here:
Remember, it’s okay to take your time! Marriage can wait—as long as you’re building a solid foundation together.
Take care and all the best!